A Tough but Valuable Lesson About Real Love

I learned a valuable lesson yesterday. I wanted to share it with you.

We all have unique perspectives on life. We are each the sum of all the experiences that we’ve had. There is no one that has ever lived, that is living now, or will ever live that will have the point of view that you have now. It makes each of us unique.

This fact becomes a great challenge when two people with their unique perspectives try to form a bond and become a couple. The more time that you spend with someone the more the two of you will realize that you are going to see things differently and disagree. It can be frustrating and challenging to try to open your eyes and see a new perspective, because it often means admitting that parts of our perspective were wrong or can be improved upon. Admitting that you are wrong is difficult for most everyone. The reward to this challenge is one of the meanings of life.

To make a deep connection with another person is divine. We are meant to share our perspectives with one another so that we can be better than individuals. Mankind is better than men. The perspectives of others, once you open your mind to the possibilities, can offer you the experience of more than one life time.

This is the true reward of a strong and loving relationship. When you have been able to come together with another person and love them enough to combine your two experiences, broaden your understanding, and truly understand another person then you have found one of the meanings of life. Truly rewarding, strong, and lasting relationships are not easy to find, but then nothing worth anything is easy to find. To intimately share the perspective and experiences of another person gives you a deeper understanding and appreciation that is hard to impossible to find from a single point of view.

Try to remember that your significant other is not you. You two have a totally different point of view and often they are not going to match. You should be ready for the disagreements that this fact brings and welcome it with open arms. Learning to listen, share, and compromise is a HUGE part of having a truly valuable lasting relationship. Be patient with each other and keep an open mind. Be willing to admit that you might be wrong. Before you let yourself be mad at the blindness or shortsightedness of your partner, try hard to put yourself in their shoes and see how they feel about things. Every time that you can work through a difference of perspective, you make huge leaps in strengthening the bound and deepening the connecting between the two of you. Trial and triumph together is what will make your relationship last. Learn to be patient when it is the most difficult. Work hard to set aside your personal emotional reactions just long enough to try to understand the issue from the other person’s view.

It’s not easy, but it’s necessary if you are going to form a lasting relationship. It’s also a very rewarding thing to accomplish.