He Cheats, but You Stay? Don’t Blame Him!

It’s not often that I write a rant. This is an exception. I have something to say to all of you girls out there that are currently with a man that cheated on you in the past. Please take just a minute out of your day and do something for me. It’s for your own good. Raise your right hand in front of your face with the palm facing toward you. Now move it away from your face as far as you can as long as you are still able to keep it level with your face and the palm vertical. Now, bring it toward your face as quickly as possible until you feel it strike your nose. Repeat.
You probably didn’t actually hit yourself in the face did you? Why not? Probably because you have an idea of how it feels, and you know it isn’t pleasant. It’s basic instinct to not do things that you know to be painful. Even a child will only try to grab a lit candle once. So why do you insist on going back for more again and again when a man cheats on you?? STOP IT!!
If a man cheats on you in any way, and you stay, what do you think you are saying to him? You are saying to him “If you cheat, I will be mad about it and be hurt, but ultimately do nothing. You will still get to have your cake and eat it too. I don’t respect myself enough to leave you, so don’t feel like you need to respect me either.” You are always going to determine the way a man treats you. It’s exactly the way you let him treat you. If a man cheats, how do you guarantee that it won’t happen again? Leave him. If you aren’t together it’s impossible for him to cheat on you. Right???
Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”. I get letters from woman saying “My boyfriend has cheated on my several times. I love him. How can I get him to stop cheating on me?” It’s really frustrating ladies.
I wrote a blog once. Here it is again. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE read it and take the words to heart.